Maggie Gallagher announces her readiness to surrender to homosexual “marriage”
(Question: but is “announces her readiness to surrender” a correct characterization? See my below exchange with Jim Kalb.) A reader writes:
Maggie Gallagher has a post today at National Review about same-sex marriage. In response to a question about what it would take for her to change her mind, she said that if there were two generations of same-sex marriage, and kids’ benefiting from a mother and father was still held as an ideal, she would still personally oppose it but essentially not mind it.LA replies:
This has always been the weakness in Gallagher’s position: it is based on social science data relating to the raising of children, not on the essential truth of male and female. As a result, she lacks a principled stance against homosexual “marriage.” She has never said, for example, that the very idea of two people of the same sex “marrying” each other is an absurdity. She has only opposed same-sex “marriage” insofar as she felt it would be harmful to children.
So we see another so-called conservative who is really just another Benthamite utilitarian. Gallagher has no ground to stand on when faced with, “Sure, these numbers indicate a degradation in family life, but that is a cost we are willing to pay!” In battle of utilitarian calculators, the big-spenders always win. It’s clear to me that no social disaster is too expensive for liberals. This is why liberalism is a luxury that will fall only when there is nothing left, when they’ve finished spending all our social capital; when they cannot (or will not) afford their utopian experiments, it’s over. Until then we shall suffer at the hands of these mad scientists. God save and preserve us.LA replies:
And let’s remember that Gallagher has been perhaps the single most vocal and prominent opponent of same-sex “marriage.” Once again we see that today’s conservatism is the Oakland of political philosophies: there is no there there.Jim Kalb writes:
It’s an interesting case. She seems to accept the idea of a state that is oriented solely toward the useful and not toward the true except to the extent the true is useful. That’s part of how she became the “most vocal and prominent opponent of same-sex ‘marriage.’” If she hadn’t accepted that idea she wouldn’t have been admitted to the liberal public discussion at all.LA writes:
Also, to place this latest development in context, let us remember that David Blankenhorn of the Institute for American Values, a long-time though highly ambivalent and even tortured opponent of homosexual “marriage,” announced a couple of months ago that he no longer opposes it. (I thought I had posted about this highly interesting event but do not find anything at VFR about it.) Maggie Gallagher, Blankenhorn’s long-time ally and one-time employee, respectfully differed from him on this, and called his new position a “surrender.” And yet now, two months later, Gallagher announces that, given enough time, she will surrender too.Jim Kalb writes:
In fairness, she doesn’t say she will surrender, she says that if she continues to lose, and we have 50 years of gay marriage, and things are nonetheless going OK for [real] marriage, then at that point she’d drop her political opposition to same-sex marriage. My guess is that she doesn’t think that would happen, but she has to say something of the sort to stay in the discussion. Which, as we’ve noted, introduces an essential weakness into her position if only because of the way it biases the playing field.LA replies:
I just read her Corner post again more slowly. It is incomprehensible doubletalk. I can’t imagine why she even wrote it, except that she is engaging—as she always does, and which I think is a big mistake to do—in dialogue with the other side, and so has to make herself acceptable to them, as you pointed out.Here is Gallagher’s post:
Brian Brown of the National Organization for Marriage and Dan Savage at long last came together in Savage’s living room to debate the topic “Is Christianity bad for LGBT people?” (Savage chose the topic.) Of course, gay marriage came up as well. You can watch the whole thing:LA continues:
More on the question of dialogues with the other side. As the original poster pointed out, the other side has a clearly marked out, absolute position: same-sex marriage is a fundamental human right, period. But Maggie does not have a clearly marked out, absolute position. So when she participates in these collegial dialogues, she’s at an inherent disadvantage. She accommodates the other side to show that she’s reasonable, while they don’t have to accommodate her, because they’re arguing for a fundamental human right on which no compromise is allowed.Jim Kalb replies: She wants to stay in the discussion and it seems to me she’s doing the minimum she has to do for that purpose. I’d imagine she’s bought into the discussion enough to think what she says makes sense, but if so how deep that goes is unknowable. At least it’s unknowable by me.Kenyon H. writes: Your article on same-sex marriage is disturbing. Same-sex marriage undermines the institution of marriage by taking the gap that exists between marriage and parenthood and making it even wider. Once marriage is defined to accommodate same-sex couples, that change cannot help but lock in and reinforce the very cultural separation between marriage and parenthood that makes gay marriage conceivable to begin with.LA writes:
Here is some support for my earlier remark that Gallagher does not say that the very concept of same-sex “marriage” is an absurdity. In a VFR discussion in 2008 concerning a debate Gallagher had on the subject with a same-sex marriage advocate, a commenter wrote:LA writes:
Here is a June 2002 VFR entry, “Homosexual marriage is a logical and necessary outcome of liberalism,” in which I quote Maggie Gallagher herself to make the point that only absolute opposition to same-sex marriage, and to the liberal premises that make same-sex marriage a fundamental right, can win this battle:LA writes: Here, in Gallagher’s defense, showing that she has spoken of the essentialist aspects of male and female and not just about the utilitarian effect of same-sex marriage on children’s well-being, is a statement by her that I quoted in a talk I gave on homosexual marriage at New York University in December 2005. Gallagher said:Ian M. writes:
The fact that a “conservative” would be willing to “dialogue” with the execrable sodomite Dan Savage says it all.The original commenter writes: Thanks for posting my comment and getting a discussion going, I’m finding it interesting. Regarding your comment about Gallagher making herself appear acceptable to the other side, it’s understandable that she wants to combat typical condescending liberal stereotypes about same-sex marriage opponents, and conservatives in general. However it has been clear for some time—other than a brief window when support for civil unions was insurance against being cast as a heartless bigot—that the other side will never accept that any arguments against their position have a rational basis. They view it all as intellectualization of a discomfort with homosexuals, similar to how any specific disagreements with the Obama administration are cast as a front for racial animus. I believe Atlantic writer Ta-Nehisi Coates has a new article where he attempts to “prove” just that.LA replies:
Your point about what drives the other side is proved by David Blankenhorn, the long-time former ambivalent tortured opponent of same-sex marriage and now a supporter, as he announced in the New York Times on June 22. In that column he says that even while he was an opponent, his chief concern in this debate was the maintenance of “comity” between the two sides. He also says that, even when he was still opposing homosexual marriage, the highest good for him was “the equal dignity of homosexual love.” What made him switch to the pro-SSM side was (1) his realization that opposition to same-sex marriage was undermining “comity”; and (2) his realization that “much of the opposition to gay marriage seems to stem, at least in part, from an underlying anti-gay animus. To me, a Southerner by birth whose formative moral experience was the civil rights movement, this fact is profoundly disturbing.”Laura Wood writes: I have no interest in what Gallagher has to say on this subject given that she views the repulsive Dan Savage as worth debating.LA replies:
Well, that certainly cuts through this discussion, including my back-and-forth on whether Gallagher has announced her readiness to surrender. Laura is declaring that Gallagher’s willingness to talk with an extreme and highly objectionable spokesman of the other side permanently disqualifies her as an opponent of same-sex marriage.LA to Laura Wood:
People often criticize me for being too tough on fellow conservatives and writing them off as liberals. You’re tougher than I am. You have permanently written off Gallagher on the basis of her talking with our enemies. I’m impressed.Laura Wood replies:
The Wikipedia entry on Savage is worth perusing. It includes a description of his effort to infect Republican candidate Gary Bauer with the flu in 2000. “He wrote that he licked doorknobs and other objects in the campaign office, and handed Bauer a saliva-coated pen, hoping to pass the virus on to Bauer and his supporters (though he later said that much of the article had been fictitious).”LA replies:
I had forgotten about that. And Gallagher treats respectfully and replies to queries coming from a group including Savage. So she’s just lost. Like her long-time ally Blankenhorn, she’s so involved in the dialogue, in the importance of having dialogue with the other side, and having the other side think well of her, no matter how repulsive they are, that she’s lost all perspective. This does bring me pretty close to writing her off as well.Ken Hechtman writes:
I don’t think you’re being fair to Maggie Gallagher. Her job is different from yours. You can make the moral case to the minority of people who already believe in the same moral order you do and forget about everyone else. She can’t do that. She needs to put together a voting majority in the immediate term and that means she needs to make the public policy argument to people who don’t share her moral beliefs. I don’t think she’s saying she has no personal moral beliefs. I think she’s saying that by themselves they aren’t enough to win a national political campaign. If she loses the public policy argument, she loses.Kidist Paulos Asrat writes:
I think this was a very insightful comment by Kenyon H.:August 24 Laura Wood writes:
Would Gallagher include in the dialogue someone who said he hated homosexuals and who cursed and spat at them? How about someone who ran a highly successful Internet project called “It Gets Worse.” I doubt it.Jeanette V. writes:
I agree with Laura. I find Dan Savage so vile and objectionable I don’t even understand how anyone could step in that creature’s home with his homosexual lover and eat at the same table as him. I was shocked when I learned of Brian Brown going to that man’s house and eating with him.Laura G. writes:
Just a comment to add to the insightful thread on homosexual marriage. In my academic community, I have asked numerous “smart,” highly educated and leftist friends what could possibly restrict marriage to two adults after homosexual marriage is legalized. The basis of homosexual marriage is that it is an individual right to be allowed to choose any partner. The state’s interest in regulating marriage is based on the understanding that marriage is an institution to protect and raise children, rather than being based primarily on the state’s interest in the rights of choice of an individual adult. Once that objective of the focus on child well-being is jettisoned, and the rationale for the state’s interest in marriage becomes ensuring individual rights, what could possibly be wrong with polygamy? What could be wrong with marriage between very multiple persons or groups? Why not child marriages? After all, the child would enjoy the love and protection of a powerful adult. Why not? Why not sibling marriage? There may be a small biologic risk to offspring, but that is true of other conceptions as well, and if the persons agree, what business is it of the state? Why not temporary marriages? Why the legal demand that there be only one marriage at a time? What could be wrong with bigamy? Why not allow a simple disavowal of the arrangement to dissolve it?Texanne V. writes:
I would suggest that, according to her own criteria, Maggie is essentially assured that she will not have to concede on this issue. One need not even wait for the results of two generations of same-sex “marriage”: the ideal that a child be raised by mom and dad is already seriously undermined. It is already unacceptable to label the traditional family with mother and father as “the norm”—because that implies that children who don’t have this are “abnormal” and our policy experts have pronounced this to be unfair, hurtful and even damaging to the child. The children being acquired by adoption, artificial insemination, and various forms of surrogacy are already being used as human shields, and to harbor the notion that these arrangements are not “the norm” is already forbidden.LA replies:
You are making a good argument, which calls into question my initial statement that Gallagher was announcing her readiness to surrender. At the same time, the total gestalt of the situation as discussed in this thread—her tortured formulation made in polite response to a disgusting homosexual activist with whom she shouldn’t even be talking—calls into question whether Gallagher is an advocate of marriage whom conservatives should take seriously.James P. writes:
The Wikipedia bio of Maggie Gallagher notes that she was, in her youth, an atheist and an Objectivist who “reverted to Catholicism” after she had a child out of wedlock. She is married to a man named “Raman Srivastav” but apparently never appears with him in public, and she does not take his last name. From his name he appears to be Indian; one may wonder, is he a Catholic?LA replies:
I’ve referenced Maggie’s personal history and marriage and particularly her racial views (she has said that even to think of oneself as white is “racist”) many times. Posted by Lawrence Auster at August 23, 2012 04:45 PM | Send Email entry |